On Maturity

by Thomas Heng

Maturity is the ability to sufficiently distance oneself from one's faults, and indeed from one's strengths as well, so that oneself and others can benefit from the collective wisdom of objectivity.

Maturity is having the strength to relate the most painful of truths directly to the one who benefits most from such revelations, without causing unnecessary collateral damage or hurt to others.

Maturity need not mean that one deprives oneself (and others) of one's innate sense of humour about the things and events in this world, inane as that humour may well be!

Maturity is the clarity of oneself to remain focused and committed to the primary priority of one's essence of being, in relation those of others, so that what has been created remains a matter worth cherishing and striving towards.

Maturity comes from the gift that is Wisdom; apart from Wisdom what remains more often than not turns to Cynicism.

Wisdom, the mother of Maturity, is the craft of reconciling all known possibilities within one's scope of experience towards a fundamental decision that one can genuinely sustain through the course of time and space, so that once that decision is made, there is little or no need for review -- the result brings Joy, Hope, and Peace to oneself amidst the fickle vicissitudes of life.